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Superiority complex

Indian flagPeople from a third world country, backward, undeveloped, poor, uneducated, orthodox – these are some synonyms to the citizens of countries like India. If a multipartite interaction involves Americans and Indians, there is an implicit sense of superiority with the American.

The American can feel proud that his country is more developed, more modern, more technologically advanced, more powerful and so on. The Indian on the other hand, who is already angered and frustrated with the system, feels inferior, weak and backward in comparison to the American.

Ever since I’ve been reborn into my second life, I have had an opportunity to interact with various kinds of people from across the globe. In my second life, I’ve discovered that I am in no way inferior to an average American. And in some aspects, I’ve this strange sense of superiority over them.

We (referring to educated Indians living in one of the cities of India) are a collage, a fine masterpiece. Take the flour of India, mixed with salts of its culture, ethics, rituals, seasons and festivals, moistened by the water of patriotism to make the core. Put it in the oil of English education and fry till its nice and glowing. Dip it in some flavors of America, its food, its movies, its music, its way of life. Then, sprinkle some Desi music, movies and cricket. Serve it with the ketchup of globalism. That is what we are!

When I am in American company, I can talk in English, understand their ways and respond. When I am with Indians, I can talk in Hindi, connect with them and so on. This explicit difference of me being able to speak and mingle with both kinds of people gives me a sense of superiority. It tells me that I am a richer person from within. I know more traits, more cultures, more cuisines, more festivals, more languages and more ways of life than an average American.

India is diverse, its people are diverse too. The third diversity exists in each Indian himself. That of being a blend of Indian-ness, American-ness and Global. I’ll end it with a song,

Mera joota hai japani, patloon inglistani,

sar pe laal topi roosi, fir bhi dil hai hindustani !!

(TRANSLATION:

My shoe is made in Japan, the pants are from England,

A Russian hat on my head, but still my heart is Indian.)

Love story

LoveDoors creaking, wind blowing, sounds of ghosts – all these thoughts have gripped Anjali as she is sitting at the corner of her dark bedroom, gripping the head of her husband Rahul, which is kept on her lap. She is scared in this horrifying state, with no one to come to her rescue. Even her husband’s company isn’t enough.

Three years ago, Anjali fell in love with Rahul, a software engineer. And as it happens generally, they got married and settled together in Mumbai. Everything was like a dream come true for them. Every morning was full of surprises, smiles and love. So were the nights and most of the daytime. She was living so many moments and making so many memories, that its hard to hold them without spilling. But when your life is on the peak, why would you care to remember sweet old memories when every moment is a memory.

Today, there is nothing left but those memories. Its not that their love is lost or they quarrel a lot. Actually, this is the time when they love each other the most. Still some issues remain. She hasn’t heard his voice since an year now. And it has been that long since he said something to her in any other form.

When they got engaged, they used to talk all day all night and beyond it. People say how much can you talk to a person, and about what. But they proved everyone wrong. Whatever came to her heart, she used to pour out on him. And he used to guide her well, protecting her from the world, coming to her rescue whenever she needed support and so on. He was the one whom she used to run to for anything and everything.

She keeps his head on her lap and keeps looking at him. Sometimes she smiles at him, kisses him. And sometimes, suddenly she’d start crying, as if pleading for something. Eventually, they’d both be in tears, helplessly lonely.

Rahul had gone away for some meeting for a week, and both of them were longing to meet. He had a flight on Sunday morning, but Anjali couldn’t wait that long. She kept on asking him to make it earlier. Finally, he gave up and took a Saturday evening flight. The flight got a little delayed due to rains. Rahul reached Mumbai at 2 am. Anjali was worried all night, waiting for him to call up.

Her half awake scared state was only broken by a phone ring in the morning. They told her that Rahul’s body was found in his car, which had smashed into a tree at 2:30 am. Her heart sank. She thought she had lost him. But fate didn’t have something that easy for her in store.

A month later, doctors told Anjali that Rahul’s spine was completely crushed in the accident. He can still hear her and see her. But neither can he speak or do anything else below his neck. Since that day to now, every night she sleeps crying with him, thinking of all the old memories, trying to recollect his voice, his touch, his love.

Wrong number

TelephoneWhy don’t we ever get the number engaged if its a wrong number we’re calling?

Well, maybe its Murphy’s law, but if we think about it, if the number is engaged, we consider that its the right number we’re calling that is engaged. It is only when the wrong number rings and someone picks it up that we find out that it is a wrong number.

Just a small thought out of the blue, thought of jotting it down.

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Hum chlormint kyon khate hain?

Television remoteI hope you remember this ad. Don’t you? Ah, well, at least the ‘elite’ people know. By elite, here, I am referring to the privileged few who happen to own a television. For me, my membership in the elite class has been a discontinuous graph, it remained fairly close to 0 since the last 14 years now.

Often, the elite have mocked the general public by talking about new ads on the television, of which the general public has no idea. And in such conversations, more often than not, the elite cannot explain in words how witty or hilarious or wonderful an advertisement is. So the ‘general public’ feels left out, and so the distinction of being ‘elite’ exists.

Today morning, the gods descended upon our home, and gave Bhavik the responsibility of passing on a message from God himself to me. Thereafter, taking the oath to fulfil what God had ordered me to do, I setforth a journey, long and tiring, through the heavy unrelenting traffic of BTM layout, risking my life by believing in Bhavik’s bike riding skills, climbing up to the 8th floor of an unknown building (using a lift;)). There, so high in the sky, near the heavens, was resting the treasure that would enlighten our lives for as long as we continue our stay in Bangalore.

With great difficulty, we all picked up the glowing relic, shining black in color, put it in the chariot (car) of its caretaker, and returned home. A flash of cosmic ray eminated from my bare hands (which were holding the remote) that started a chain reaction in the divine body that we had just procured, and a blue screen of godly colours lightened up. This was the story of our tryst with our new (second hand) television.

The heavenly gods have finally blessed me, and I thank thee in rejoice, and cry in happiness that God considered me worthy of joining the elite.

Hail LG!

Adios.

Defining humans

A neuron…. competence intention trust stability happiness uncertainty fear rejection responsibility doubt myself ….. Whenever I read Devansh’s (aka Deboo) blog, I feel that I am drowning in a tag cloud of these words. As if each and every word screaming at me, urging me to understand the depth of things, the undeniable truth. Still, I let myself argue in disbelief and objection to these laws set forth before me, that define and guide the life of all human beings.

I may be wrong, I generally am, but it is hard to digest that all human race can be described by generalized rules and characteristics that Devansh describes so aptly in his writings. And it is amazing how most people, including me, can relate themselves with his thoughts and ideas.

my happiness – my responsibility

According to Devansh, only a person himself/herself is responsible for his/her happiness or unhappiness, not other people. Yeah, we expect from people, we desire for certain objects, we do actions which might compromise our physical or mental security, this is all true. If we think deeply, for a lot of things that we get frustrated about, like someone not living up to our expectation, the fault can be found in our wrong estimation of the other person’s intentions and capabilities.

A safe way of living in such a situation is to not expect anything from anyone, or to always underestimate the capabilities of others, to doubt their intentions. Pessimist is the word that comes to my mind. This is similar to advocating that we build up a wall around us, so that no one can penetrate our stable and happy state.

probability experiment

Take a glass full of water filled to the brim, and keep it in front of you on the table. Then, by what probability can you say that you will be able to drink it without spilling? Go to the terrace of a 20 storey building on a windy day, sit on the boundary wall and put the same glass on the same table in front of you. What is the probability now? Certainly the probability in both cases was not 100%. Nevertheless, the former one was much more higher for obvious reasons.

The tasks, responsibilities that we carry out everyday have many more steps involved than the number of steps in the previous experiment. Each of these smaller steps has a probability of success attached to it. It is very similar to a sequential computer program. A good program has fail-over mechanisms to handle failures and exceptions.

approaches we can take

It may be best to be detached from the world, to not feel pain when it hurts by reasoning in your rational brain that it was your own fault, to not blame people for what you have suffered by reasoning that they were not competent enough, to take up a collective responsibility as one of the individuals within the society for reasoning that society creates robbers when you get robbed.

I am no saint, no revolutionary, no philosopher or such. I feel hurt when it pains, I get angry when someone screws up, I get frustrated when things don’t work, I am heartbroken when relationships break. What keeps me going on? Faith. Belief. Expectations. Hope. You can call it all these, but all these are mere probabilities of success of a future event calculated by a network of billions of neurons by applying hardwired and experimentally determined thresholds on the output of non-linear functions computed over the billions of inputs that I receive every moment.

fail-overs within us

anger, pain, sadness, tears, shouting, violence, frustration – all these are my fail-over mechanisms. Signals to my neural network that things aren’t going the way as planned. Hints that there is something wrong about what I assumed before, that I need to readjust my thresholds, change the functions that I use. Just like it is inevitable to pursue happiness, it is inevitable to call these fail-over mechanisms when they are needed. They are hardwired, built into the system, they come “on-board“, Read Only Memory.

Happiness isn’t a complex thing. It doesn’t take a philosopher to explain how to feel a moment of happiness. Why do we have to put it under an electron microscope and find the probability of finding a happitron in a certain dumble-shaped orbital around ourselves? I prefer to keep it simple and stupid.

By realizing the deeper truth, by learning how to bypass the fail-over mechanisms, one can get closer to being ideally stable and robust. Such a person might feel happy, might not. I don’t know whether that person will still have the parts of brain that are responsible for emotions and feelings, they’ll be more like appendices. As for me, I choose to remain human.

Have some wine

WineWhen you think about wine, what comes to your mind? Maybe some of these thoughts,

  • Intoxicating
  • Delicious
  • Smooth
  • Elite

Well, the open source Wine software isn’t very far from these definitions either. People in the Windows world have always hesitated to give up GAMING just for the sake to switching to Linux. And this gap, this barrier has forever seemed to shrink, but never made close enough.

A big majority of Linux users simply put forward arguments which are valid but not convincing enough for a comfortable Windows XP user. Though, still Linux remains what it is, not-for-laymen, some useful softwares such as Firefox, Pidgin, Konqueror (rather KDE), Thunderbird make it less so.

why windows software ??

Technically, open source formats and technologies such as OGG, OpenGL, etc. are much more superior than proprietary technologies such as MP3, DirectX, etc. This reminds me of the dialog in the movie “Pirates of the Silicon Valley”, where the character of Bill Gates is dancing in front of Steve Jobs for having released Windows 3.1 prior to Macintosh. Steve Jobs is angered by the whole thing and retaliates by saying “Still, our product is much better” and Bill replies “You see, that doesn’t matter!”.

In a world that uses Windows based platforms and API in majority, whether good or bad, the availability of software specifically made for Windows is much much common than that for others. Hence, a lot of effort is being put in to be able to execute “Windows based software” on Linux. Some of the strides in this direction are Wine, Code-weavers and Transgaming Cedega. While the latter two are paid software, Wine comes for free.

my experiences

With a combination of Wine, Cedega and Code-weavers, Linux users are able to run most softwares and games written for Windows. I have myself used Wine to play Age Of Empires II Expansion 1.0 and Cedega 4 to play Counter Strike Condition Zero.

problems with wine

The spectrum of support for Windows software on Linux is growing each second. The worst part about Wine is that its interface still inherits the not-for-laymen tag of Linux. It is really too painful to tell Wine where my Windows folder is, which DLL to use from Windows and which ones to use from the Wine built-ins. There are specific issues around each software that you want to run using Wine. Though Cedega 6.0 tries to provide a better interface, but the problems are similar.

layman’s perspective

A layman doesn’t understand what is Wine. Why do we have to configure it in order to make it work. Which DLL files will be required to run his game using Wine. He has a setup CD of WoW and all he expects is that when he double clicks ‘setup.exe’, it will install his software by pressing next-next-next-finish and then when he double clicks the game icon, it will start running.

I am a Linux person if you ask what I prefer. I like to fight through problems and make things work on my Linux OS rather that rebooting to Windows XP. But to put it in simple words,

Windows is like a Maruti 800, slow, fragile and un-powerful, easy to drive, can’t take much load and needs a mechanic once in a while. Linux, on the other hand is a train engine, fast, powerful, robust, unpolished, not presentable and it takes an expert to drive it ON track.

Love

I Love YouThe other day I was discussing ‘what is love’. First thing I did was ‘define:love’ on Google (Ok, well even Yahoo! Search is good, but I wish it had this ‘define’ feature). It gave various definitions ranging from ‘affection’ to ‘sexual intercourse’. And then I looked up Wikipedia. It described all the types of relationships like father-son, brother-sister, husband-wife, mother-child and their bonding.

requirements for love

So, what is love? Do we need two living beings for love? I love Indore, though a city can be attributed to a living creature, in this case where is the second living being? Then again, you could say bikes love some xx engine oil. Can a bike love? Or are we just misusing the word here?

Love is affection, attachment, sense of belonging, attraction (both general and sexual) and so on. So is love a superset of all these different emotions/feelings/situations? Can we define a ‘degree of love’? Why do people say I don’t love him/her THAT much? And if the weaker relations are just ‘infatuations’ or ‘simulations of love’, what is the threshold above which a relation becomes real love?

finding out whom we love

A dear friend told me, she loves everyone! She says, every human being she meets, she loves him/her. She reasons that it doesn’t have to do anything with sexuality or attraction in that sense. Its more about loving the human being within. I doubt her claims. Can someone love everyone? Yes, definitely there are good people, worth appreciating, but do we LOVE their goodness? We appreciate that they are good human beings, or for that matter, we appreciate the innocence and beauty of animals sometimes. But do we love them?

I don’t want that there is a bomb blast in Bangalore which kills many people. Does it mean I love half the population of Bangalore? I barely know them to love them. We all feel that we’re attached to all Indians (or if we think globally, we’re attached to all humans), but do we love them?

criterion for loving

First off, it is too difficult to find out how many of the 6 billion plus people we actually love. So lets try to put some criterion on loving.

  1. We should know about the existence of the object we love. (Do we love god?)
  2. We should have felt that person once (including but not limited to seeing, hearing, online communication, reading his/her book, hearing their music) (We all have communicated with god, through his creation, this wonderful symphony of nature that is around us.)
  3. There should be some characteristics of the other person that we like in our own way (and they might not necessarily be characteristics that are liked by everyone)

I know that the 6 billion people in this world exist. I know animals and plants exist. So ‘everyone’ fits in criterion ONE.

I’ve read about, talked to a wide variety of people or known their ways of life through television and internet. Lets say with my knowledge set, I cover around 2 billion people.

Everyone is unique, everyone has something different about them. And if you pay attention, you can find something about everyone that you like. But, unfortunately I haven’t being paying attention to each and everyone of the 2 million people in question.

my story

I only pay attention to the ‘currently active’ people in my life. My attention span is a sliding window, when I was in school, I had a different set of friends, and now I have a different set of colleagues. And I seldom try to catch up with old friends (except a very special 3-4).

So at a point of time, I care about a set of 10 people among friends and 20 people among family members. And my affection towards others fades as their memory fades. Does that mean that my love towards anyone is just their presence in front of me all the time?

Then again, there are certain people you seldom talk to, but still whenever you talk to them, you have a deep bonding with them. Even though you haven’t talked since 2 years, you still feel the same when you talk next.

If all people in the ‘active set’ (around 30 people) were to suddenly disappear, my life would get an unbearable shock. I fear losing the active set. But when someone slips out of the active set gradually, though sometimes it pains a little, but my life still goes on.

some instances of love

Seems we’ve drifted a lot from the topic, but seems all these don’t define love. Maybe because love cannot be calculated or understood. It can only be felt.

When you are with someone who is not very well accepted by people, and it would degrade your reputation to be with him, you fear about what you are doing. But when in a certain moment, you feel that seeing him smile, making him happy will give you such fulfilling satisfaction that nothing else matters, I think in that moment you are in love with that person or thing.

At certain times, you feel it doesn’t matter that the other person is happy or not, whether you are rude to him or not. What matters is that you both exist, and talk sometimes. And the distance between you is filled with some cosmic fluid that keeps you attached wherever you are. You are never one of their best friends, but in your heart you know that no one could care more about you than him. Its rare though, have you experienced it?

conclusion

Love is a mutual state shared between two or more objects(living or non-living, real or virtual) that have experienced each others’ existence in any possible manner at least once. The parameters of this shared state can be fully understood only by the objects in question and no one else. No words, no music or any form of communication is sufficient to explain to a third party the nature of the mutual shared state. In this mutual shared state, none of the object(s) involved have any control over the state, rather the state itself drives the actions of the two objects.

Hope it made some sense :-)

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KISS

When I typed the last few posts, all I had to do was place my hands on the keyboard and lo, the words started coming out automatically. But now that I can see a handful readers, I am hesitating in beginning this post. Human nature you see, the more people watch you, the more uneasy, more prone to error you get.

This happens in many things. When you are just typing, you are just typing. When someone mentions that you type so fast, just then you’ll fumble four times to type a small ‘hi’ on messenger. When you are alone riding, you are riding. When someone unwilling and afraid sits on your bike, you’ll give a million jerks and your bike will stop in the middle of the road a couple of times.

People generally do things better when they are casual. When they are left unnoticed. In the limelight, even the one who practices a lot makes mistakes. I guess that is why these days, companies are stressing on an informal atmosphere in the offices. Even if you want to do something very very official for example, a chat can suffice, with the flexibility of including all shorthands and chat lingo! People accept people using ‘hindi’ words to explain in between the usual english, rather than sticking strictly to english and making no sense.

What I feel is, the whole world is getting more into the motto of Keep It Simple and Stupid.

Find. Use. Share. Expand.

 

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